When we’re born, we’re naturally and spontaneously happy. But, this is soon covered up by the core existential fear that there’s something bad about or wrong with us.
According to a UCLA study, by the time the average child is 10 years old, they’ve heard the words ‘no or don’t’ over 1.4 million times.
Add to this the countless times we’re told we’re ‘naughty’, ‘stupid’ or a ‘sinner’, and the seeds of self-doubt are sown and watered. Life rapidly becomes a desperate struggle to prove our worth and (at the expense of our own destiny) fulfil the expectations of others: parents, teachers, friends, and society.
Our core values may seem noble: hard work, self-sacrifice, getting to the top, making money, providing for the family… But these are often mere symbols of success where rewards are outweighed by: stress, burn-out, anxiety, depression, little time to be with loved-ones, etc. The closer we get to outer success, the further away we are from our original inner happiness.
As the Dalai Lama and all the great sages through the ages tell us, it is our purpose and destiny to return to the original, pure, state of happiness in which we were born. To discover who we really are and follow the truth within us.
Putting happiness first can be a major paradigm shift. It can be quite a journey of un-learning, self-awareness and letting go years of negative habits and beliefs. But it’s an investment that pays rich dividends. It’s the only way to balance outer success with inner happiness.
Are you at a place in life where you’ve struggled and sacrificed to reach the top of one mountain and you still feel unfulfilled? All you see ahead is more of the same?
These are the horns of the dilemma upon which most people are impaled.
You can transcend the dilemma. You can put your own happiness first, and take the next step towards your true destiny. You can do this.
You can do this now.